How we define happiness is complex and personal. True happiness can't be reduced to brain chemicals alone. And our feelings are messengers that give us important information.

But one thing that contributes to an authentic sense of wellbeing is having a sense of control over our lives and the way we experience reality. One of the best ways to exercise your power of choice in how you focus and channel your emotional energy.

There are so many things in life that you can't control, but when you learn how to regulate yourself, you have a lot more choices in how you can respond to life.

NLP Happiness Techniques
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And it's important to acknowledge that feelings are there to alert us to something that we need to understand or respond to or learn. Most of the time. But sometimes we just fall into habits of feeling. When we're in the habit of feeling sad, for example, it might be time to ask ourselves whether it would be ok to experience a different feeling, just as an experiment.

In this post I've compiled 3 NLP Happiness Techniques that you can use whenever you want to give yourself a boost.

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Serotonin -- The Ribbon of Love


Imagine that you're standing in front of a person you love. Imagine that your hearts are connected by a ribbon that circles in a figure 8 -- first from your heart to their heart, and then looping back around to yours. As you imagine this ribbon of love, imagine that it's gathering more and more love, speed, and momentum between the two of you, creating a positive feedback loop. Share this love with the other person, and fill up your own love cup as well. (H/T to Nichole for this NLP Happiness Techniques.)


Instead of standing in front of a person you love, imagine that you're standing in front of a person that you feel neutral about. It could be a person at the grocery store, or a person you pass on the street. Again, imagine the ribbon of love, and allow your love to extend beyond the sphere in which you normally experience it -- without condition or expectation of anything in return, although also experiencing the pleasure of giving love.


Imagine that you could find a part of yourself that you have a hard time loving. Maybe there was a time that you did something that you're not proud of, or there's an aspect of yourself that you just can't accept. Imagine that the part of you is embodied right before you, and do the ribbon of love again. Generate that positive feedback of love loop, and see what insights you gain.

Oxytocin -- The Butterfly Hug

NLP Butterfly Hug
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I teach this NLP Happiness Techniques to almost all my clients. It's versatile, and soothing, and you can take it anywhere you go. It's also a nice one to teach to kids.

Cross your arms across your chest, close your eyes. Imagine you're in a Happy Safe Place, and then tap on each shoulder in an alternating rhythm, kind of like a heartbeat.

BONUS: Dopamine -- The Circle of Excellence

The Circle of Excellence NLP

This is one of the most popular NLP Happiness techniques. Imagine a circle on the ground. Draw it with your finger. Then, throw into that circle all the positive qualities that you want to recognize about yourself. Get creative with this -- any quality you can imagine is de facto something that you can experience about yourself. Load the circle up with positive qualities that you want to experience about yourself.

Then, when you're ready, step into the circle, and experience all those positive qualities. Take them with you throughout the day, and allow them to make your day awesome.

One of the benefits to using NLP for anxiety is that it is a self-administered intervention that can be done any time, anywhere. No medication, props, or people are required in order to access it. All you need is an understanding of how to apply the tool, and to remember that it's there when you need it.

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Using NLP for Anxiety is as simple as playing with sizes, shapes, and colors

Feel the Fear and Play with It

Where do you feel the fear? Is it your head? Is it in your chest? Is it in your stomach, or somewhere else? Does it have a color, a shape, or a size? Close your eyes, turn your attention inward. Notice where you're feeling the fear, and assign some attributes to it.

If it's light, you might try making it heavy. Or vice-versa: if it's heavy, make it light. If it is on one side of your body, shift it to the other side. If it's dark, make it light.

If it's in your head, try shifting it down to your chest, or your stomach. Notice how the feeling changes as it moves to each different location. You could even send it into your big toe. What happens when you send it into your big toe? Or even send it into the ground.

Pull the Plug on Anxiety

Imagine the scene that is causing the fear as an image, and just imagine that there's a little bath stopper at the bottom. Pull the plug and let all the color and emotion drain away.

Then, you could even make the image darker, dimmer, and farther away.

Run this process a few more times if you need to, experimenting with the ways in which you can play with the image.

Notice how even just the act of changing the way you see something changes the way you experience it.

Step out of Stress

In the same way that you change clothes after coming home from work, imagine peeling the stress off of you and into a place on the ground. Brushing the stress lightly off and away from you with your hand could also be helpful. Then, once you've de-stressed yourself from head to toe, step out of the pile of stress, bag it up, and throw it away.

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Using hypnosis to quit smoking will help you avoid the drawbacks of quitting

Many people are afraid to quit smoking because they don't want to gain weight. But you shouldn't let that stop you. Quitting smoking doesn't have to make you gain weight. When approached with the right mindset, utilizing self-hypnosis, it can actually facilitate weight loss.

You're Going to Eat Healthier

Let's be honest, smoking is really bad for your body. But if you're replacing your cigarette cravings with healthier choices, you'll be eating healthier foods, and you'll be burning more calories throughout the day. That can add up to a lot of weight loss.

You're Going to Move More

A lot of people think that quitting smoking means you're going to have to replace it with some other bad habit, but that's just a matter of personal choice! In fact, the simple act of quitting smoking itself can be enough to move you into a healthier lifestyle, according to the Cleveland Clinic. You can make the process of quitting smoking a way of achieving other goals at the same time.

Smoking costs you a lot of money, money that you may as well spend on things that actually make you happy. That means quitting smoking and starting to live a healthier life. It also means being more active and spending more time with family and friends.

You're Going to Drink More Water

Once you quit smoking, you'll naturally gravitate towards drinking lots of fresh, clean water. This will help your body flush the toxic nicotine from your system. Within 72 hrs of your last cigarette, your body will be free from all traces of toxic nicotine. This allows your body to begin to heal. Just imagine waking up with that clean feeling in your lungs and mouth every morning for the rest of your life.


When you focus on your desired outcome, being smoke-free and in better health, you can achieve that outcome and enjoy the person you've become in the process.

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